Mom Guilt

    Something that moms can very often fall victim to is mom guilt. This is where you are doing everything you can and at your best ability but you still feel like you should be and do more.

    With my first son my husband would put him down to sleep at night and I still felt the need to stay up with them even though I wasn’t doing anything. That was one I worked through quickly knowing it was important to get that sleep before he woke up later that night.

    With my first son I wasn’t able to breastfeed and it severely messed with my mental health and made me feel like a failure. When I had my second son I finally figured it out and breastfed him for a year with just a little bit of formula supplementing. I would hit three months, six months, nine months and then a year. At each of these stages I felt so proud but then I would look at my oldest and feel guilty and sorry that I couldn’t provide it for him.

    Several times in motherhood I would be feeling good about the time I spent with my kids or the time I spent cleaning and getting things done. Then I would almost instantly feel guilt about not spending time with my kids or not cleaning instead. It was as if I couldn’t be proud of myself or give myself for what I was doing in the moment. I was constantly finding a way to make myself feel bad about feeling good about myself.

    Mom guilt is something I still struggle with and as long as I’m a mom I know it will pop up every now and then. But what will make a difference in those moments are do I beat myself up for it and belittle myself or do I give it it’s short moment and push it back. Say I am a good mom! I have NOTHING to feel guilty about!

    If you are also struggling with mom guilt I am with you and I am proud of you. You are a good mom!